Tributes to Steve Alford
It is with great sorrow that we announce the death of Steve Alford, my husband, trustee, and treasurer of The Light of the World Trust.
Steve was taken home by the Lord on the 24th of November 2021, following a short illness, he was loved by so many people and will be sorely missed. Below are a few tributes which were read at his funeral from myself, his stepchildren Tracie and Darren and his three granddaughters.
His position of treasurer of The Light of the World Trust will be taken jointly by the chairman Sarah Cater and myself. Please pray that The Light of the World Trust continues to be as successful as it is now with so many dog owners and volunteer dog walkers.
I’m in the process of writing a book about my husband Steve and me, please see out story ‘Is truth stranger than fiction’, about how we coped as two blind people and how we set up the charity and what it means to us but I need some financial support to pay for it to be published. It will cost somewhere in the region of £6000, will you help with this?
If so please make a donation to: The light of the World Trust, account number 65885066, sort code 089299.
Thank you, Geraldine Alford,
A tribute from Geraldine
There are so many things I could say about Steve but there just isn't the time. Steve was my life - he meant everything to me. He taught me how to overcome my fear of disability, in particular my fear of blindness. Steve acted as if he had been blind from the moment he was born, it was never a handicap for him, like it was fo me.
Steve always had a great sense of humour, he was able to laugh at things that most of us would have found frustrating, if not irritating. One friend described his sense of humour as mischievous.
I don't know how I am going to live the rest of my life without him, but so far the only thing that keeps me going is the sure and certain knowledge that one day, I will be with him again Godwilling.
Steve was always interested in the military wanting to join the army when he was just 16 but being turned down because he was blind in one eye. He avidly read books on the wars not just the first and second but also the Napoleonic and other wars. He was particuraly interested in modern war fares especially electronic or technological weapons.
Steve became a Christian just a couple of months after we met. He had been involved in the occult asking me if I wanted him to give me a taroh card reading. I politely told him that I did not and that I was a Christian. This started Steve on a search for the truth. He often told me that he heard the voice of the Lord speaking to him and also frequently heard the angelic choir from heaven, this was always music to my ears because the angelic choir was not something I ever heard.
On his last day of life, something compelled me to say to Steve "I think the Lord wants to take you home soon darling". It wasn't what I wanted to say because I wanted Steve to come back home woith me so I think it might have been the Holy Spirit speaking through me. I have always known how much Steve was looking forward to both of us being taken by the Lord. It was a subject that we were never tired of speaking about. We both knew that on that glorius day, we would both be able to see again. I can think of nothing better than seeing our Lord Jesus and being with Him and Steve forever in a world where there will be no more pain, no more sorrow, just endless joy of being with the Lord.
So although I miss him terribly, I know for sure that Steve is no longer suffering from cancer nor is he blind. He is with the Lord and this is where I hope to be one day.
So farewell for now, my sweet prince and rest in peace. I love you and always will.
A tribute from darren
Steve was such a brave and clever man, at just 19 years of age he lost his sight and was left totally blind.
Despite this never let that deter him from getting on with life, in fact he was amazing. He had such a great sense of humour and outlook on life, and he never let his disability stop him from doing things that he wanted to do.
I once remember visiting and went through to the back garden and saw him up a tree sawing branches off, and he went on to build a proper summerhouse as using power tools was not a problem for him, he took tasks on that a lot of sighted people wouldn't even try to attempt.
Also as we all know he has helped to look after his wife, my Mother for over 33 years. He was a great husband to her and was the man tat finally made my Mum happy and her loss is felt very deeply by us all.
I mentioned Steve's bravery earlier, whilst we all clung on to hope that he would beat this awful disease, we all knew deep down the chances were slim and he probably wouldn't be with us much longer.
Despite this Steve's spirits remained positive, the humour was still there to be heard, and his concern about my Mum's welfare right up to the end, is a testament to the man he was.
For a person who was not dealt the best hand in life, to have the traits of being kind, patient, generous, positive and with a will to take on almost anything is truly inspirational really.
Steve, you where an amazing person, stepdad, husband and gramps and you will be sorely missed by us all, al least we can all take some comfort that our loss is Heaven's gain.
Rest in Peace Steve.
A tribute from Tracie
I never really knew Steve...
Now this is a strange thing to say given that he was my stepfather for 30 years, and I regret not getting to know him better.
He and my Mum married in Bristol in the 80's and at the time I lived in Hillingdon with my partner and our two very young children.
In my mid twenties Mum and Steve moved from Bristol to Hillingdon to be closer to myself, my two brothers and her grandchildren, but still I never really got to know Steve.
He hadn't been married before and had no children, but he accepted his grown up extended family naturally, especially his young grandchildren.
He was a quiet humble man, on family occasions he tended to retire to the kitchen and look after their dogs whilst the rest of the family chattered away to each other in the lounge. Sometimes it got quite noisy, especially with five excitable young grandchildren around at Christmas times!
But Steve didn't retire to the kitchen to escape the hullaballoo, nor was he being anti social, you see Steve had another totally unselfish agenda as knowing that Mum relished having all of her family around her, he simply slipped out of the equation for a while so that she may enjoy us without any distraction from him.
I wish I'd got to know him better, have had deep and meaningful conversations with him, for he was such a clever, softly spoken, knowledgable and interesting man whose blindness posed no challenges, someone who could turn his hand to most things and often achieve them better than a sighted person.
But mostly, I will remember Steve for his kindness and complete devotion to my Mum over the last 30 years, they were a match made in heaven and I've every faith that they will be reunited there one day.
And although I never got to know Steve as well as I would have liked, nor have had any deep and meaningful conversations, I'd like to say this to him today...
Thank you for loving my Mum so much and making her so very happy for 30 years.
You were truly an amazing husband, stepfather and grandpa.
Rest in Heavenly Peace Steve.
Tributes to Gramps
Our gramps was one of the loveliest people that we all had the pleasure of knowing. He was so humble and always put others before him, even when he was going through struggles in life himself. His dry but funny sense of humour never failed to make everyone laugh, yet he had such a caring nature at the same time which meant that everybody adored him.
He stepped in to be our Gramps and has been the best friend and husband to our wonderful grandma and for that, we are eternally grateful. Even when he was fighting for his life, Grandma was his number one priority. But I know he has given grandma strength in his death, knowing he is with the Lord and free from blindness and pain.
Gramps was one of the most admirable people we have ever met. He had the hilarious ability to have a witty comeback for almost any conversation that he had. You never knew what little pun he had for the conversation, but you knew there would always be one- followed by a smile and laugh. He has overcome many obstacles in his life, but he always made the best out of situations. He made grandma the happiest woman alive, and they were the perfect match for each other. In the last few weeks of his life, I remember him saying how grandma will always be his number one priority and that he will look after her until the day he dies- but I also believe he will be with her forever, until they are both reunited in heaven. He will always be in our hearts. Goodbye Gramps, we all love you unconditionally.